"When you were born you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice." ~ Cherokee

Reflections on Life, Service and Legacy

When You Hate, We All Lose

I have lived long enough to see how this plays out. Hatred is never a winning hand. Neither is selfishness. As a lawyer, I chose to avoid handling divorce cases early in my career. They are, for the most part, bitter, protracted, and driven ..

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Grateful for Being in the Eye of the Storm

Recently, my friend, Anna Catalano, hosted a Zoom Happy Hour. Like the rest, Anna was missing old friends and the lack of intimacy that Covid-19 has rained down upon us. During the call, it might have just been the question, the timing, or how our g..

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Replace Hate
How Do We End the Hate?

“We must undergo a radical revolution of values. We must rapidly begin the shift from a thing-oriented society to a person oriented society.” Martin Luther King, Jr. New York World-Telegram and the Sun staff photographer: DeMarsico, Dick ..

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In a Society on Edge it’s Time for Perspective

"It's always darkest before the dawn... It's always darkest before the end too!"  A Dark Time I heard Ted Turner deliver those lines once, and they always make me smile. It's also a healthy dose of perspective in a hyper-political time where soci..

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The Political Paradigm Shift

par·a·digm shift:  An important change that happens when a new and different way replaces the usual way of thinking about or doing something.                                                                       ..

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What will Your Legacy Be?

“If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” -Hillel the Elder..

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Servant Leadership

The highest type of ruler is one of whose existence the people are barely aware. Next comes one whom they love and praise. Next comes one whom they fear. Next comes one whom they despise and defy. The Sage is self-effacing and scanty of words. When h..

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Ferguson: 9 Steps Towards Common Ground

As the conversation continues about Ferguson, something good might come out of a very bad situation. However, only if fact-based, rational discussion is had. It would help if facts are not distorted to fit a preconceived viewpoint, and when facts are..

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I Never Looked At It That Way…Thank You

When was the last time you read that in a comment section of a blog post, news article or on Facebook? Today, it never happens.  It is the most maddening aspect of our current public conversations.  Our discussions have devolved into, “I’m rig..

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Coming Alive

Are you alive? If you are reading this, I know you have a pulse. But are you fully alive? I have reflected on that question often, and it is involved in the working title of my next book.  The question challenges me. And it haunts me. So often we ..

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